“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Gautama Siddharta
It’s been a while since I put out a post. I felt stuck in some ways, having not attended as many “for good” events as I have in the past. This meant not being part of as many inspiring things to share with you. And then, I felt a bit guilty that happened.
It’s busy – with kids off in the summer, working on the next book, and running a home-based office while trying to give both work and family the attention they need and deserve. Some days I do this balancing act better than others. More often than not, I find thoughts from both ends of the spectrum distract me and that both suffer a little. Or, if they don’t, then I suffer working late into the night to catch up on things.
Recently I started focusing attention on myself. I haven’t felt that I’m doing my best as either a mom or as a consultant. And the writing? Even when I would sit to work on the one thing that brings me the most joy and relaxation, I couldn’t find where the character wanted to go next. I’ve scrapped several chapters – more than once – trying to get there. Eventually it occurred to me that I needed more meditation to aid the process (especially since the character will need this too).
So, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing.
And it’s wonderful.
Of the multitude of positive outcomes I’ve received (being led to go back to the chiropractor and to buy one the books my former intuitive development teacher wrote, and to journal more, and many others) by being more consistent and thoughtful in my meditation exercises, the one lesson I’m embracing is being in the moment.
Instead of worrying about what got done, what should have gotten done, or what shouldn’t have been done (or sometimes said) and instead of wondering what or how tomorrow is going to be, I’ve become really centered on being present in the moment.
And being truly connected to the exact moment in space and time you’re in can cure a lot of issues.
Ever been “in” the room with your kids but not really involved in what they are doing? I noticed I was doing that after my children started becoming very clingy and… noisy, talkative, edgy, agitated,and/or annoyed with one another. But, tonight there was none of that. I attribute it to being not only “in the moment,” but also being “in their moment.”
I was completely in their company. And it was FUN. We built a great Lego house and made “fancy” pasta and meatballs (which was just good ol’ pasta and meatballs served in some pretty glass bowls – what, mom? No plates??) We then grabbed some items we’re donating, headed outside and my two youngest got to use the hose… and dish soap. When they moved on to cleaning their little house, they were playing so nicely in tandem and neither of them needed me anymore. By being more involved with them, they actually ended up needing me less.
And, when they came back to my moment, they were cuddly, not clingy. Why, they even remembered their manners and had more patience with each other.
Being in the moment is more than just occupying space and spending some time together. Your heart, mind, body, and soul are present and connected to the task or people you are with. The satisfaction that comes from being this way is immense.
In the end, being in the moment with myself (meditating) and being in the moment with those around me encouraged returning to the blog, brought clarity on a few new ideas for a client, and helped developed the plot I’m working on. Plus, it required less energy and caused less stress than all the previous hours, days, and weeks spent worrying and concentrating on any of these issues.
Simply Put – Breathe in, believe in, and be in the moment.